Hello 17 year old me, this is future you.

94e631e2dab403bcaa59a0e6f8e53b1e.jpgImagine if we could go back in time and tell our younger self some tips and tricks that you have learnt along the way. 10 years ago I was 17, I was just finishing my GCSEs and starting my AS levels and thinking what A Levels I wanted to do, whether I was still going to stay at my school and what would happen with my friendship with my “best friends” that I have known since aged 11, on top of that dealing with issues of being a 17 year old girl.

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loveyouandthem has had a redesign

20b41254c798f9be2173e0f6dbfd0a1eYou may or may not notice, but my lovely blog has had a redesign.

I wanted my blog to represent what I love, and that is colour. I hope that you like the changes🙂

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The previous design is still very similar to the one at the moment, the background of course is different and the heading. I have removed the logo and increased the topics at the heading.


Please remember that if you do need some time out, or you need to chill or are suffering from anxiety – just click on &chill and you will see an array of different amazing websites for you to choose!!


Follow me on instagram


Hey you lovely readers, are you following me on instagram… more importantly am I following you on instagram!!!

If not, pop over and follow me @loveyouandthem🙂 Click here to follow

Just a pre-warn, I do follow all that are not “spam” or “diet” instagrams, so if you are only using me to increase your numbers…… I am not a digit.


I am happy.


Guess what, I am happy.

I am happy for so many reasons (let’s just leave my aches and pains out of it haha), but I am happy and it’s a weird but beautiful feeling.

I am so grateful for:

  • my beautiful, funny, mad family
  • my gorgeous and ever so kind best friends
  • my lovely best friends’ little girlies who lighten up my life every time I see them
  • being in a loving home
  • having a job I actually really like doing and not dreading going into work the next day
  • being more confident in myself, whether that by physically or mentally
  • music to help me through so many emotions

Sometimes you have to talk a step back and think, you know what things are good. You may have your bad days, but at the end of the day someone loves you.

So if you’re feeling down, come and say hi! Whether its on here, instagram, twitter, or via email – I love talking to people.

I would never want you to feel sad or lonely.


Be strong, you can do it.

35d2d9684ba9cf61e3680088375c9654Isn’t it funny how much of a little bit of courage and an attitude of “oh fuck it!” can do for you.

Last week I was having a bad day, the morning started off with me breaking the kitchen tap to the point water was going everywhere, I was on my own and I didn’t know what to do…. I was also trying to get ready to visit my best friend in eastbourne and I just thought what else!!

I missed the train. Enjoyed a beautiful day with my bestie and her two little girls and then got on the wrong train home.

At this point, I thought “you know what, what else can go wrong…..” Then….

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Warm, comforting and the best remedy for chronic pain – the yuyu bottle

So if you don’t already know I suffer from a chronic and invisible illness called Thoracic Outlet Syndrome…..which I’ve spoken about previously and it’s recently getting worse.

Due to this pain in my veins, I find it very hard to find a medication that will work and luckily heat helps me and relaxes me.

Today I was driving home and I could feel my arm was becoming increasingly weak, my pulse was going all over the place and I couldn’t breathe. Pain was going down all of my left arm and I just pulled over and cried.

I got home as quickly as I could, took my make up off, got in my pj’s and I know it’s the middle of summer but I had to get my yuyu bottle.

Last Christmas my parents bought me the most amazing present that anyone I think with a chronic illness should have.

The yu yu bottle.

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But you don’t look unwell… living with pain


invisisible-illness-catYou see people in pain every day and sometimes they can be visible and sometimes not. I am in the “not” section. I first started becoming unwell in around about 2007. I have in the past 7 years found that I have a number of conditions, but at the end of the day you really have to think to yourself…….. someone is a lot lot worse off than you! I thought I would talk about my pains of the day lol, thoracic outlet syndrome.

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Drunk minds speak sober thoughts

907fcf9a6966c8c0337e510dd55682eaJust a quick post today, as I am feeling in a reflective mood. Why is it when we drink, we start to think of all of the shitty emotional things that you have been storing away in the back of your mind!

You know those thoughts that are under lock and key, you don’t want to think about that person, situation or those emotions.

I often find myself going back to the same thoughts and emotions each time I become tipsy, and this is where I need to surround myself with other tipsy people. I honestly don’t think that I could be the type to drink on their own, otherwise this may happen:


It could be me walking past certain spots of town, where I know I have created a happy memory there, or a certain song…. I will become a mental mess LOL!

But drunk minds do speak sober thoughts, and the amount of times I have had to put the phone down…. STEP AWAY FROM THE PHONE CATHERINE!!!! I know I have been there far too many times, either via myself being too truthful or my friends/my crush… it can end in tears and it often does!

So what do we need to do……. we need to get drunk with other unstable emotional best friends.

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