As a girl or even maybe just a person I am not upfront and rude until something really annoys me and I always try and see things from another person’s perspective. So I was really shocked when I went out with a work colleague shopping last night. I know she can be pretty abrupt on the telephone and she says things straight to yourself and of course she also has her nice side, but I definitely saw something else last night and I questioned my own personality.
Lets think of some examples, she would have a go at anyone who got in her way on the road (ie slow drivers) or swear at them etc, I would just wait my time out and just drive by I wouldn’t intentionally turn around and look to swear. Hmm another one, she would wait for someone to open a door for her and wouldn’t hold for someone else – I would do the exact opposite for both. In the stores, she would ask the cashier questions that were so abrupt and sounded so rude, there was no please or thank you and when we were looking for candles she turned and said “god that is disgusting give me something that smells “actually” nice. I was appauld by this and I just kept having to say other comments and butting in “oh im sorry that’s not the right scent do you have anything else in mind such as along the lines of…..” and again pleases and thank you. When at the till, the lady would say “hope you have a great day” she would just ignore them and walk off with her nose up in the air and I would reply “thank you, you too hope you have a good evening too!” with a smile.
I don’t get it, why be so mean or so rude. Okay she gets what she wants but getting there takes some times a little help with a smile and politeness. I just felt a bit shocked by it all, I have been that cashier and I would feel absolutely awful after I had served her. If for example she had a rude customer on the phone, okay she may bite back and be great in arguments (which I am not – BUT I can defend myself when I want to!) she would hate that person on the other end of the line.
What do you prefer, do you prefer to be blunt or polite but still express feelings when needing to be?