Now, first things first…. I am tired, I am hungry and I am tired and a tincy wincy bit miffed. I am a size 18 girl, I have gone in the past from a size 14 (I cant remember before then, I may have been a size 12 when I was younger) to a size 20. I have gone through all the different ways in which clothing is made, what feels good on me and what really doesnt. I am currently looking for a lovely show off Christmas party dress that I can wear. I wear dresses pretty much 5 days a week without a fail, I used to be one of those girls who hated them. But it could be me, as I have gotten older or “larger” (let’s be blunt now), I have wanted that extra comfort. So instead of the tshirts that finish at the waist, I bought the ones that went past my bum. I started to not wear jeans anymore, because they were slightly a bit too tight and uncomfortable, I therefore went for loose trousers/tights/leggings. As they came out, I thought I’ll try a dress and hey presto I loved it.
I know I know I know, that everyone is different sizes, that everyone is a different shape, not every girl wants to dress the same and finally that every shop has different dress sizes…….. by the way the most ridiculous rule ever. You wouldn’t have different sizes of shoes now to suit your customers would you!!
To be fair, when. I was a size 14 I felt amazing…. I would get looks from the lovely opposite sex (haha a treat nowadays!), I felt amazing in tighter clothes and the designs were a bit more brash because I wanted to show off my figure. But then chocolate came along…. uhoh. No seriously I did get rather ill and I am a comfort eater, but my weight does fluctuate.
So currently at the moment, we have this lovely song in the charts:
*go on have a little wiggle wiggle and a sing – click on here*
And in my eyes its not about celebrating being a bigger girl, its about celebrating being a woman… but thats another story. I am fed up of finding the perfect clothes in shops and you automatically go to the back of the rail, in the depths of the darkness to find your size… OR NOT!! Most of the time its sizes 6-14, sometimes even a bloody 2. Who’s a 2, I would like to meet you,
maybe we could exchange some…. body fat? lol! no no wrong wrong.
I know that this post can go the complete and opposite way, of course I do. With the beautiful smaller girls saying that “men love their curves” and “men don’t love bones” … hate that phrase yuck! Men / Girls love all shapes and sizes… otherwise this world would be bloody boring. I am sure that a lot of issues for the “smaller” girls are the same too, not finding the right clothing, the shaping, the length.. I dont know. I cant vouch for your thoughts, as I have never been there – therefore I definitely don’t want to make presumptions. But I know that no girl should be made to feel that they are the better or worse weight/size
But what really gets me, is what used to be my favourite ever shop in the world. I would forever be buying my clothes from here, and im guessing if this was seen then they may not want me back.. 😦 oh well.
There you go I said it. I am now a Primark, Dorothy Perkins and Select Girl. These three stores not only do they cater for the larger girls ALL AROUND THE STORE and not just in the most tiniest little area secluded off from the rest of the store, but they also stock all of their clothing from sizes 6-20+, where every size can wear the same clothing…
Seriously New Look how hard is that to do? I am forever going through the rails of their stores, then finding out that they stop at 16. So yet again, having to embarrass myself (as the shop keep moving the section and making it smaller each time I go in there) – ‘Where is the Inspired Range?’. In which one time, an employer said ‘Oh its that tiny little section at the back, there’s not much there’……………. FML.
So therefore the only other option is to go online.
I would like to just show you a comparison as to the different designs / looks / shapes and the way it is design on their website, between the Inspire range and the Standard:
I understand that some lovely ladies out there would want to show off their bodies, I understand that some girls want to hide their lumps and bumps, but to put pretty much every design (and yes this is just a snapshot!!) in a tunic dress or a skater dress is just a bit ridiculous. When they are pinched in at the waist, it of course is going to float out around the waist therefore making you look bigger. The colours especially on the top layer are so in your fact, compared to the left hand side of the dresses.
Dear Mr Retailer, maybe we want to
– not hide our arms
– put a panel around our waist, we want to show that off!
– not wear darker shades of clothes
– pay an extra fiver for the extra size…….. not.
– try different fabrics
– show a bit of cleavage (noticed that its all high necks now)
I don’t know maybe its just me.
Of course they’re not the only store that does it, but its the one that keeps popping out at me. Oh and finally, if you are going to use models to show off your dresses – chose someone actually realistic. Someone with a double chin, someone with big boobs and with a bit of a belly. Not someone who is a Plus Size Model – aka 14 in the modelling books.
I think i’ll go to sleep now. All I will say is, where whatever you want to wear, it’s your body, do as you wish, wear what you wish, if you feel comfortable go for it, what does it matter that someone stares… you never know what they may be thinking. Plus its 10 seconds of their life of thinking a potentially mean comment, but if you are feeling fabulous and sexy, whats 10 seconds in your life.