I don’t know whether it’s me or just my age (oh god I went there), but I really am in no rush.
So many of my friends seem to be in a rush to either:
- Get married
- Have babies
- Buy houses
- Have the perfect life
- The best job
But for me, I just like happiness. One of my beautiful best friends announced the other day that she is pregnant. We all screamed with excitement haha then within 10 minutes it was a case of them all saying “Oh cat, you’re next!!” (as I’m the only one without a child). Don’t get me wrong I would love a kid, but for me there’s no rush. I love being “auntie” to all of my friends children and I love giving them back haha but at the moment I can’t even imagine it. I know for a fact my parents absolutely want to become grandparents lol and each time I tell my mum that one of my friends is pregnant, the look of disappointment is very hard not to not see.
However, in order to have a kid you need a certain other person (yes I know you don’t have to always be with them), but here’s another aspect where I literally am in no rush. I have been independent for so long now, that having someone in my life is just so weird to me. Like it’s weird that someone would spend the day,evening, night. Would want to know what you’re up to, where you are etc. It’s just like mate, chill the fuck out. I’ve heard it a few times this year “so why are you still single”:
- 60% of the time it’s because no one fancies me lol
- 20% is because I don’t fancy those who do
- 20% I’m just too used to being on my own
I think it sometimes scares men that I’m too independent lol.
Finally I had my yearly review this week and one of the questions were “where do you want to be this time next year, and what training do you want?”. My answer was simply “I’m my job now and I don’t want any further training, I’m happy as I am”. Where my manager was taken back a bit and went on to say that I should look for future progressions. But to be honest I’m happy. Why should I force more pressure on myself for a role I don’t want?
So what I’m trying to say is:
- Live your life
- Love your life
- Listen to your heart
- Do what makes you happy
- What will be will be
- Eat what you want
- Have more you time
- Don’t be pressured into anything you don’t want to do.
It’s my life as Jon Bon Jovie sang haha
Oh if you’re looking for ways in which to relax, head over to my chill out area.
Oh gosh, basically everyone I know is either getting married or having kids, lol. This is a great reminder to chill and enjoy my life the way it is, right now. 🙂
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Exactly lovely. There’s really no rush!!
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Be good at being you before any of that stuff. I think women have it rough when it comes to life stage expectations.
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Totally. I agree!
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I am in from the American south and the expectations for women to do all the things you listed starts after high school in many places. You aren’t alone here.
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