Happy 5th birthday to my blog

Woohoo!!

PAAAAAARTY!!!

It’s my blogs 5th birthday this year and what a journey it’s been, yes i said the J word, am I ashamed?..no.

My blog originally started back in 2013, where I used it to outlay my thoughts, my feelings, my emotions and potentially things I didn’t want to tell others. I was going through a pretty shit time, and with counselling I ended up doing this blog.

Now, as much I don’t often blog any more, I do come up with so many different ideas and I’m always thinking “goddamit cat get back into it” but I never do.

So let me tell you, I haven’t gone away. I am still reading blogs in the background. I just, for some reason am censoring my thoughts. But I’ll get there.

Blogging to me is escapism, it’s the thought of having your mind out there, whilst hopefully someone else in the world agrees with your madness.

I may not have a theme for my blog, I may not focus on one particular area. I also have never had a sponsored post, or been given any product to review but my gosh I will write the raw truth as much as I can and never spell check or read it back.

Another reason why I love writing for my blog is that I can write how I like. I work for a team where I write content for a council website, where is strict and we have to write official, formal and in such a standard. But my blog is my little world, where I won’t get judged for bad grammar, spelling and how a page looks.

I will add all of the gifs I want (you’re welcome) will write in different ways because I can..

However I never ever ever ever EVER expected to have nearly 80,000 views, over 3,000 “followers” of my blog and over 2,500 on social media.

From me to you:

Here’s to the next 5 year’s.

Come by and say hi sometime! You can find me:

Twitter – @loveyouandthem

Instagram – @loveyouandthem

Ps I hope you enjoy the RuPaul’s Drag Race theme of this blog. I’m so bloody happy it’s back on Netflix.

Fact: my opening image is of a confetti shot when I went to see Alyssa Edwards tongue pop

Day 7 – relaxing and chilling

hello hello hello!

So, the challenge is going well isn’t it(!) Hahahaha!!!! I to be honest have been having quite a busy week, I have visited my University and had a day trip to London. On top of that my whole family came back from their holiday, it’s been pretty busy. With that in mind, I need to relax.

Relaxing is hard sometimes and I am currently on a 2 week break from my work, and I have loved it.

I have quite a busy job and sometimes find it very hard to relax, even my osteopath has said that I need to learn to relax more. I therefore thought I’d put together a list of things I do to relax… hopefully this may help you.

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Day 6 – second chances, are they worth it?

hey hey hey im back after 2 days off, so lol less than a week in I’ve broken the string lol.

Anyway back to this blog post, second chances do you ever give them? I personally give too many chances and it’s not good for me personally and I think over time and growing older cough I have learnt to not give them out freely.

Everyone will always have different opinions on second chances and of course, second chances also depend on the situation and circumstance.

Second chances I will never give:

  • Bullying
  • Racism
  • Hurt of a loved one (physical or mental)
  • Serial cheating
  • Abuse of a loved one (physical or mental)
  • If someone has really made a bad impression on me.

I am not going to list the chances that I will give again, as the circumstances of course maybe different.

Honestly I do give people far too many second chances, sometimes four or five and then I think “why am I such a mug?”. Do what feels right for you, give chances to who you think deserves it. But don’t let them take you for a ride.

What would you give second chances too?

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Day 5 – music and my emotions

Welcome to day 5, can I say now that I’m already finding this challenge difficult and I’ve got 26 days left. Fuuuck. Lol.

Anyway, music… What an absolute joy. It gets you through the good times, the break ups, love, happiness and the sad times. Music can make you dance in so many ways, give you confidence and can also make so many memories.

This is a long post… sorry. I have missed out film scores as I could go on.

Ps if you see an image it will link to a video where you can listen to the music

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Day 4 – it’s ok to cry sometimes you know


We are all human, sometimes we need to take a step back and just think to yourself YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

We are not all born to be strong, but I tell you what the little strength we have together is a force to not be messed with! No one is alone in this world, no one should be alone in this world. We all have different emotions daily and not one person will experience the same day or the same emotions, but we can share our stories. It may be that no one has felt what you’re going through, but someone is there to land a hand…

So what I am trying to say is, if you want to cry – bloody cry!!!!!! It is not shameful to cry, it is not embarrassing to cry (just don’t do it everyday). Continue reading “Day 4 – it’s ok to cry sometimes you know”