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Why do I fear being in a relationship?

So, this is a post that I have been putting off writing for years, and I literally mean years. I’m hoping that by writing it, it will clear away so many thoughts in my head, or even just some weight off my shoulders.

I suck at relationships/ people liking me.

There I said it. I’m so bored of it. I thought I would write down all of the thoughts in my head… here we go: Continue reading “Why do I fear being in a relationship?”

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10 things I learnt about growing up 

I am getting to the stage in life where either most of my friends are engaged, married, going to have babies, are parents or going through relationship breakups because they haven’t lasted since the start of their 20’s. I am in my late 20s now, and it is a bit of a strange age, for me personally I still feel like im 21 and it still feels as though I left Uni last year and not nearly 10 years ago. It made me realise what the hell have I learnt really, and what I could have said to myself all those years ago. Continue reading “10 things I learnt about growing up “

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Day 18: what I like about being a female

Yesterdays women’s marches across the world really made me think about how great women are as a sex and how we fight for and support each other. Now I have already wrote about what like most about men, so don’t say I’m being biased!
I therefore thought I’d put together a collection of what j like about being female.

So, here we go: Continue reading “Day 18: what I like about being a female”

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Day 15: what makes me happy

Hello lovely readers, so first of all…. IT’S MY BIRTHDAY week (5th Jan)!!!!!!!! I am of ripe old age of 28. Yes 28, I did think that my life would be very different right now, but hey that’s life.

Today’s blog is all about happiness and what a great day to do the blog as I am feeling extra happy.

Happiness is a feeling, a thought, a smell, a memory and a sensation. If you can think of one happy thought a day, it really does help.

So here we go: Continue reading “Day 15: what makes me happy”

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Everyone deserves to be loved.

wp-1480438773059.jpgSo here’s something, the other day I was having a chat with a number of people and we were all discussing relationships etc, who’s single, who’s in a relationship and who’s married.

Now it’s coming to the point in various friendship groups of mine that they often glaze over me, when discussing about future relationships. I have seen this happen more and more even with my girl friends, and it’s a right bugger sometimes.

Sometimes I think ha ha that’s funny, yes I have been single for many years etc but then sometimes that actually really hurts. It’s kind of like they’re going, oh we won’t bother with her she has been single so long, even we have given up on her.

The other night, there were two singletons in the room and the group were discussing us. One of my friends saw on my Facebook that had have been talking to a boy/lad/man (let’s say) and I’ve been trying to keep it private for some time. Then suddenly they were all interested and honestly we just chatting at the moment, then mid way through many saying “I hope you get a boyfriend soon”, one blurted “no I don’t think so, I hope …..insert name….. gets a boyfriend before her”.This person was deadly serious.

I mean, kick a girl when she is down!!!

It really took me aback and made me think, yes of course the other person should find love, but why should someone find love over someone else?

We all deserve love, we all deserve happiness no matter your size, shape, height, ability, race, and sex.

What do you think?

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50 quick questions to pass a Sunday


  • What was your favorite food when you were a child? I think it was the standard nuggets chips and beans. 
  • What’s the #1 most played song on your iPod? I don’t have an ipod but let me check my phone haha, it’s oh, it doesn’t tell me I’m gonna go for something Adele
  • What is one of your favorite quotes? I’m not doing it wrong I am just doing it differently 
  • What’s your favorite indoor/outdoor activity? Drawing/colouring in
  • What chore do you absolutely hate doing? Hmmm dusting
  • What is your favorite form of exercise? Talking count? Lol
  • What is your favorite time of day/day of the week/month of the year? At night when it’s nice and quiet
  • What’s your least favorite mode of transportation? Hmm canoeing lol I’ve no idea
  • What is your favorite body part? On me? Er, smile?
  • What sound do you love? Waves lapping up against the shore

Continue reading “50 quick questions to pass a Sunday”

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Don’t judge others by someone else’s opinion 


Something that really annoys me with human nature is the idea that people think we should like or dislike someone else because of another persons opinion.

I was told the other day that one of my negative points is seeing the good in others that others don’t see. I seriously was taken aback by that comment. I do not understand how that is a negative trait. Do you?   Continue reading “Don’t judge others by someone else’s opinion “

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Hello 17 year old me, this is future you.

94e631e2dab403bcaa59a0e6f8e53b1e.jpgImagine if we could go back in time and tell our younger self some tips and tricks that you have learnt along the way. 10 years ago I was 17, I was just finishing my GCSEs and starting my AS levels and thinking what A Levels I wanted to do, whether I was still going to stay at my school and what would happen with my friendship with my “best friends” that I have known since aged 11, on top of that dealing with issues of being a 17 year old girl.

Continue reading “Hello 17 year old me, this is future you.”

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Be strong, you can do it.

35d2d9684ba9cf61e3680088375c9654Isn’t it funny how much of a little bit of courage and an attitude of “oh fuck it!” can do for you.

Last week I was having a bad day, the morning started off with me breaking the kitchen tap to the point water was going everywhere, I was on my own and I didn’t know what to do…. I was also trying to get ready to visit my best friend in eastbourne and I just thought what else!!

I missed the train. Enjoyed a beautiful day with my bestie and her two little girls and then got on the wrong train home.

At this point, I thought “you know what, what else can go wrong…..” Then….

Continue reading “Be strong, you can do it.”