Respect and let go

Hey lovely people.

I dont think I’ve ever said on here before but in my family at the moment we are currently going through some sad times.

Last year my Nan found out that her cancer had come back for a 3rd time and this time it had spread to her lymph nodes. My nan is a bloody lovely lady and is so sweet, and when I found out it came back it just shook me. I thought she can do this, she has this down as this is her 3rd time.

But, what happened next shocked me and it’s really made me learn to respect other peoples choices. My parents and my uncle went to the hospital when my nan found out and she turned around to the doctor and said:

I don’t want to have any medication, if the cancer takes me, then I’ve had a great life.

I’ve thought of her saying this so many times in the past year and to have the courage to say she doesn’t want help, made me of course incredibly sad but respect her loads.

My grandad (her husband) passed in 2011 and throughout the last 8 years, she has seen so many of her close friends pass and I think she’s just fed up.

Over the past few months, we have all decided to rotate our calls to my nan just to see how she is. Shes in pain, she is depressed and not eating. I want to help her so much, but she keeps saying that she wants to make memories. I just find this so sad. Her character is changing and its just heartbreaking.

The worst she has ever said is:

Some days I wish that I didnt wake up

To me, I’d love to personally take her to hospital and give her the chemotherapy/ radiotherapy but I can’t. I have to respect her wishes.

So, for me it’s making sure in her time now she has the most lovely memories and is ok as she can be.

But as I’ve said before, if you have grandparents please please please love your grandparents as they will always love you.

PS I want to say the most biggest thank you EVER to all of the people who tweeted me when I asked for advice and charities for the elderly. I honestly couldn’t get over how many people responded.

Anyway, hope everyone is ok

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Being 30, i thought it would be different

Hey!

So I’ve been 30 for over 4 months now, nearly 5 and I’m slowly getting around to the idea that I’m 30. It’s still weird to see it written down, and when people ask how old I am, again it’s odd. I find it even stranger when I see people on TV that I personally think look older, and they end up being 33 or 34. I just think “fuck, is it all downhill from now?”.

When I was little, I had so many ideas of what being 30 would be. I thought I would have:

  • A successful career
  • 2 kids
  • A nice house
  • Married

Looking at that list above, I was thinking probably about my parents. At aged 30, they were getting there. But nowadays it seems that you either have your shit together or you’re struggling to get your shit together.

I am in the latter.

I’m not even joking, everyday since turning 30 I have thought to myself, why am I 30 and how did I get here? Like, I havent moved out yet, I haven’t met someone to be happy with yet, and my job… well. Meh.

But all of those, are to be confirmed arent they? I’m only 30, I’m a young 30 and that’s what I have to focus on.

So what, that all my best friends now have kids, so what that they are all happy with someone or loving the single mum life. They may look at my life and think (God knows why) wow I want her life, the independence.

I think being 30 so far as taught me more about myself. I know what I like, what I dont like and what I put up with. I love:

  • Happiness
  • Glitter
  • Colour
  • Makeup
  • Taking the old selfie
  • Going places on my own
  • Family

What i dont love is:

  • People who talk about themselves
  • Gym lovers
  • Politics
  • Argumentative people
  • Pushy people.

I’ve learnt to say no more. Ive learnt to say “I love you” to those who truly deserve it. Ive learnt that, although I may not think it at the time, I’m ok.

There are so many areas that I need to learn and to love about myself, but I’m getting there.

Currently I am going through a huge phase of absolutely not knowing what to do with my career. I feel absolutely out of my depth, and its getting to the point where I used to love to go into work, and now I dont want to. I havent felt like that in years. But I’ve taken career test after career test and I honestly dont know what I want out of life.

I’m hoping, that the next 7/8 months before I turn 31 that I learn what I want and what makes me happy.

But in the meantime, I’m trying to accept more, to have a more open mind. Life is too short, and I know this more than ever at the moment as my Nan has terminal cancer. She is just a beautiful kind lady, and its gonna hurt life fuck when she goes, so for now we all take it in turns to call her everyday to say “I love you”.

I therefore put it to you, to make sure you say “I love you” every day to someone special. Itll brighten their day.

Don’t forget to breathe… why I’ve been quiet lately.

Hey lovelies,

You may or probably may not have noticed that I have been a little quiet on here and on social media. I’ve been a little busy lately in my own life and things have just taken over.

At work, my life has been a bit hectic, I have been moving companies (back to the company that tuped us out in the first place), it’s all happened so quickly and to be honest came out of the blue. I didnt know if my job was safe and now I know that my job role is changing, but I also have the opportunity to go up in my role… but I’m hoping that I’ve got enough confidence to go for it!!

Secondly, my mum has been seriously unwell.

Last week mid Tuesday morning around about 430am I heard the phone going off and I honestly thought “wtf is happening?” And my mum was screaming in pain.

2 hours later, she was was rushed off to hospital in an ambulance and I just didnt know what was going on. She was in incredible amount of pain, couldn’t unfortunately wee and her leg was numb. The NHS have been fucking amazing.

She ended up being transferred to a London hospital and had to have an emergency operation on her back, to remove some of her spine. We later discovered that if she didnt have operation, she would have been paralysed.

I’ve been very much stressed and the idea of doing a blog post or anything I just couldn’t be arsed. I was so incredibly tired and emotionally drained.

I do have some other shut going on but thats for another blog where I literally want to moan.

So that’s my update. Lol what have you been up to?

Social media training for a blogger.

Hey lovelies, so I have had a bit of a weird day with the fact that I had 4 hours worth of training for social media.

Now, let’s just paint a picture shall we…

I have my own:

  • blog
  • Twitter x2 (blog and personal)
  • Pinterest
  • YouTube
  • Instagram x2 (blog and personal)
  • Facebook
  • Snapchat
  • Degree in marketing which focussed on the entertainment industry, marketing and social media.

I know social media. I read about it a lot, I’m often on it… often scrap that, I’m always on it. I know about it.

So today, my busy morning which I would have rather spent actually doing work consisted of me learning what I already knew. My team merged with another team in another department to work out the main company’s strategy for social media.

I sat for this amount of time, listening and being patient as to:

  • What makes a tweet successful
  • What is a gif
  • What is a meme
  • When should Twitter be used
  • Why we should use photos to engage with audiences in tweets etc

I didn’t want to come across as an absolute bellend but I knew this. I was sat next to someone who is in events who bless her didn’t log into Facebook (being in events and not using Facebook is just so confusing for me!), she didn’t know what a meme was or Snapchat. Surely if you’re going to work in a big communications company these are the things you should know.

We spoke about the use of hashtags and why they bring people in etc.

Look I’m a blogger, I may not blog all the time or attend events but I bloody know how to do all of this. It was hard to not say anything without advertising my blog, as it’s personal to me but oh dear god.

There was so many things that I suggested and it was a case of them looking blank. Why are people so scared of social media? It’s the bloody future!!, it’s now!!

I’ve actually got homework to do, yes me a 30 year old, I have homework. I have to come up with 4 ways in which to promote a service i work for. I was already coming up with so many ideas and I’m so intrigued by what others are going to do. But it’s to me so intriguing how people get by without promoting their business online. They’re missing out on so much.

I am absolutely not claiming that I know everything, seo goes over my head but surely it’s common knowledge that you can add a filter to a photo to make it look better (Yes that was a thing I learned).

Have you ever had one of those days where you’re just like “WHY am I here?”

Hello and welcome to my world

Hello!

I thought I haven’t done a post in a while for those who have yet to get to know me, new followers and those who are passing by. So hello, hallo, bonjour, ola, etc (to be honest that’s as far as my language skills go!).

My name is Cat, what’s yours?

  • anything highlighted is a link to a blog post of mine 💜

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About me

Here are some facts about me:

  • I live in the UK
  • I started this blog post to overcome some emotional issues I was faced with
  • I try to see the positive in everything
  • I really try to not judge others from other people’s opinions (even wrote a post about it!)
  • I’m a bit of a night owl, so you’ll probably see me more prominent online late at night
  • I’ve just turned 30 this year (2019) and it’s all a bit new but we will see where the year takes me
  • For my job, I write online content and I’m quite strict with what I write, how I write and how words are perceived. On my blog, all of that goes out of the window
  • I don’t plan my posts, I don’t read through them, I simply write how I feel and post
  • I have a chill out zone on my blog, which focuses on mental health
  • I will never mention any of my friends names on here, as this is my safe haven
  • I have a few chronic illnesses and sometimes I like to blog about them
  • My blog is pretty random, it’s usually my thoughts but sometimes I do reviews
  • This lovely blog also once got featured on a clothing website and got quite a bit popular. Woke up one morning and I was like wtf has just happened to my views!!!
  • I also appear on a fashion site currently for my favourite hot water bottle. Sounds strange but trust me it’s a good thing lol
  • Finally, this blog is 5 years old. Have a read of my 5 year anniversary post.

Favourites

  • Film(s) – gosh there are quite a few, but if I had to choose it would be; The Grand Budapest Hotel, 7 Brides for 7 Brothers, Burlesque, Crazy Stupid Love and Chicago.
  • Music – I love, George Ezra, Sam Smith (did you know Jessie Ware liked this post!!), Jessie Ware (not even saying that because of the last comment), Blue will always be my first loves, Spice Girls, Jack Garrett and Adele
  • Tv – without a doubt my fave is Ru Paul’s Drag Race, then the amazing Taskmaster, I love a good crime and murder show, Sex and the city and Green Wing and Strictly come dancing
  • Colour – emerald
  • Number – 6
  • My loves – family, friends, music, film, makeup, stationery

Love you and them

As I said, I made this blog 5 years ago to help with some counselling and it’s grown since there. I’ve now got Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram accounts associated with my online world.

Find out why my blog is called loveyouandthem.

Follow me on social media

Instagram – Instagram.com/loveyouandthem

Twitter – Twitter.com/loveyouandthem

Pinterest – pinterest.co.uk/loveyouandthem_

*that’s me and you getting on haha!

My favourite blog posts

I thought I’d rather a list of my fave posts I’ve done so far. They are in no order, and these are only a selection lol don’t expect you to read them all (although that would be nice – but a title may tickle your fancy):

As you can see there is a huge range of discussions going on, but if you can check out just one it would be appreciated.

Anyway, as I said I’m a night owl and it’s currently nearly 3am and I’m up at 7am. So talk to you soon and: