Celebrating my 20s – end of an chapter

Hey beauts, I hope that you had a fab Christmas and I hope that you’re still eating all of the cheese and chocolates, whilst drinking a lot of wine.

I’m currently sat writing this whilst watching Cinderella and looking at my phone every 2 minutes as my best friend is going go have a baby any minute!! I’m so excited.

As the year draws to a close, so does my 20s. This time next week i will be 30. Oh god I feel a little bit sick at the thought of it. So as I’m sat watching a Disney movie, I thought I’d reminisce over this last decade, share my favourite memories and lessons I’ve learnt.

Here we go:

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Dumplin: my review

Hey lovely people I hope that you are well.

The other day my lovely friend Jen recommended that I watched the new movie on Netflix, Dumplin. I had seen the trailer when it was first released and I honestly thought that was the movie for me. I’m a sucker for uplifting movies with bigger girls in, for example – hairspray. I then saw in the trailer bloody drag queens. Now if you’ve been following me for some time you will know that I bloody love Ru Paul’s Drag Race, so I couldn’t wait to see it.

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Day 18: what I like about being a female

One of my fave blog posts! What I like about being female.

The recent women’s marches across the world really made me think about how great women are as a sex and how we fight for and support each other. Now I have already wrote about what like most about men, so don’t say I’m being biased!
I therefore thought I’d put together a collection of what j like about being female.

So, here we go:

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Speak up when you don’t have the courage

Hi all, hope you’re well.

I just thought I’d blog about something that has literally just happened to me.

Now I just wanna put it out there now, I bloody love the NHS and what it stands for, what they do and how much this country loves it. But sometimes, I’m in disbelief.

I have been suffering with a bite on my leg recently so I went to see the doctors. I don’t like particularly going to the doctors unless it’s an issue I can no longer deal with myself.

I went in and saw a locum doctor, and I’ve never seen this doctor before. When I was going into the room, she was pretty straight faced, kept looking at me up and down and just didn’t really have the rapport the doctors normally do with their patients.

So I sat down and showed her my leg and she was like I don’t know what it is but antibiotics I’ll order them. That was pretty much it. But I had to ask what happens if it bursts, should I cover it, could it get worse? I even showed her a photo I took last night and it was like she didn’t give a damn.

I thought fine, she must be busy I’ll go.

For months now, actually well over 1 year now I have held back in asking when at the doctors about my pcos. Much like cervical screening, I wanted to know if the nhs asks patients how their pcos is doing, whether they feel it is getting worse etc. Pcos can affect your fertility and it’s scary!

I know for a fact that it has got worse, and I think the inner me is super scared that i will never be able to have kids. This was a moment for me, I’ve had this question in my head for all this time, putting it off as you literally can only deal with 1 query at a time (fucking ridiculous).

Anyway I asked, and it was literally like I asked her if I could shit in her mouth. She talked to me like I was a silly little girl, asked why I wanted to know and nothing would come of it if we did ask.

How fucking rude.

And guess what I plucked up my thoughts and said “I’m sorry, but you’ve come across as very rude to me. I am asking a question that is simple and took me some time to ask” and her response “I didn’t think I was ride, why do people keep saying this?”.

As im the type of person to get frustrated, I bloody cry. And I cried!! So embarrassing.

But what, if I was someone who needed mental health help, would she have shot me down do easily?? I was flabbergasted when I left, we shook hands and I was out.

Doctors are amazing people, but honestly just a simple bit of empathy goes such a long way

I’m not just a statistic, I’m a human!!

Happy 5th birthday to my blog



It’s my blogs 5th birthday this year and what a journey it’s been, yes i said the J word, am I ashamed?..no.

My blog originally started back in 2013, where I used it to outlay my thoughts, my feelings, my emotions and potentially things I didn’t want to tell others. I was going through a pretty shit time, and with counselling I ended up doing this blog.

Now, as much I don’t often blog any more, I do come up with so many different ideas and I’m always thinking “goddamit cat get back into it” but I never do.

So let me tell you, I haven’t gone away. I am still reading blogs in the background. I just, for some reason am censoring my thoughts. But I’ll get there.

Blogging to me is escapism, it’s the thought of having your mind out there, whilst hopefully someone else in the world agrees with your madness.

I may not have a theme for my blog, I may not focus on one particular area. I also have never had a sponsored post, or been given any product to review but my gosh I will write the raw truth as much as I can and never spell check or read it back.

Another reason why I love writing for my blog is that I can write how I like. I work for a team where I write content for a council website, where is strict and we have to write official, formal and in such a standard. But my blog is my little world, where I won’t get judged for bad grammar, spelling and how a page looks.

I will add all of the gifs I want (you’re welcome) will write in different ways because I can..

However I never ever ever ever EVER expected to have nearly 80,000 views, over 3,000 “followers” of my blog and over 2,500 on social media.

From me to you:

Here’s to the next 5 year’s.

Come by and say hi sometime! You can find me:

Twitter – @loveyouandthem

Instagram – @loveyouandthem

Ps I hope you enjoy the RuPaul’s Drag Race theme of this blog. I’m so bloody happy it’s back on Netflix.

Fact: my opening image is of a confetti shot when I went to see Alyssa Edwards tongue pop