Dumplin: my review

Hey lovely people I hope that you are well.

The other day my lovely friend Jen recommended that I watched the new movie on Netflix, Dumplin. I had seen the trailer when it was first released and I honestly thought that was the movie for me. I’m a sucker for uplifting movies with bigger girls in, for example – hairspray. I then saw in the trailer bloody drag queens. Now if you’ve been following me for some time you will know that I bloody love Ru Paul’s Drag Race, so I couldn’t wait to see it.

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Breathe, relax and chill – pause your anxiety

wordswag_1492549933885Every once in awhile, we just really need to sit back, relax and take our mind elsewhere.

I definitely have those moments and still have them, where I just need to walk away. I do it at work, when I am stressed I take 5 minutes and just stand outside, look up at the sky and remember how minuscule you are in this small world of ours. I think in this quick paced environment we live in nowadays, where anyone can contact you with a press of a button, we do need to take time out for ourselves.

You will see at the top of my blog there is the menu section, if you’re ever feeling this way and just need to chill, click on the link “Chill out zone”.

Here within this little space of heaven are a number of links that I have found over the years that have really helped me relax. Anxiety attacks are bloody awful, I know. But we only have 1 body, we need to learn to love it more.

  • Quiet place – take a few minutes out, no music, no distractions and just focus on what you can see
  • Rainy mood – I freaking love the sound of rain, so this always chills me out
  • Do nothing for 2 minutes – what is says on the tin, please just use this if you need a quick fix. But if you don’t do what it says, it’ll take longer, just relax and go with it. It works
  • The thoughts room – don’t know what to do with your thoughts, put them here
  • Intotime – a relaxing interactive colour website
  • Silk – have a play with some interactive silk
  • Have a hug day – the happiest link on earth, do you want a hug? let strangers all over the world give you the biggest hug you deserve
  • Liquid particles – what it says on the tin, go and play
  • Stress analyst – see how it can help you!
  • Cat noises – meow – for those who feel like they need a cat purring in their life
  • Mind UK – a great charity, available for you to talk to
  • Young minds – a charity for children and adolescents

I am updating it often, and I try to make sure that they all still work haha!

Go and have a look, and if you have any suggestions, please let me know 🙂

xo

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Love.Friendship.Thoughts

604baa3a841d45c00eb415553e417c33First of all I have just watched the magnificent Breakfast at Tiffany’s for the first time and wow, why and how have I not watched it before. I can see so much of me in her, its ridiculous. But it also taught me a life lesson, which was simply said by “Fred”:

You know what’s wrong with you, Miss Whoever-you-are? You’re chicken, you’ve got no guts. You’re afraid to stick out your chin and say, “Okay, life’s a fact, people do fall in love, people do belong to each other, because that’s the only chance anybody’s got for real happiness.” You call yourself a free spirit, a “wild thing,” and you’re terrified somebody’s gonna stick you in a cage. Well baby, you’re already in that cage. You built it yourself. And it’s not bounded in the west by Tulip, Texas, or in the east by Somali-land. It’s wherever you go. Because no matter where you run, you just end up running into yourself.”

I am forever terrified that someone is going to stick me in a cage, not allow me to be free and to not allow that chance for such happiness. I know what I want and who I want, but I missed out on those chances and now I am the one unhappy.

One of my biggest thought issues, which not only has been this week but has been for many months is the “what if?” What if drives me insane, it worsens my anxiety and it worsen the future thoughts as well. I am not one to jump into something, I like to think a lot before I do things. But the downside of waiting too long, is that the more time you wait, the more time you start to think of the negatives of that “thing”.

My girl friends know the real me, but don’t at the same time. I listen to them being very happy in their relationships and also the downsides. I listen to those who are single and sleeping with this man and that man etc but that’s just not me. I want someone to like me for me and men/boys have, but as soon as they say they like me… its like nooooooooo back off!!

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Films like No Strings Attached and Friends with Benefits have although some serious strong same storylines (1 lots of S’s there lol, 2 why brings these two films out at the same time I will never know), but these films struck accord with me. No I am not gonna go around sleeping with lots of people but its the girl’s attitudes that got to me. The quote above, is exactly what I described earlier and I do do that.

**my own therapy post here ** it’s because of your stupid exes, if they weren’t so much of a dick (whether they be literally small lol *sniggers*) then you would be fine with relationships now and people liking you, go for it!! ** back to the post**
In the past, I have had two of my close boy friends both like me, but I have always looked at the negatives ie:
– ruin the friendship
But what else is there really to lose:
– it either doesn’t work and you don’t talk **shudders at the thought**
– it does not work out but you act mature and you still keep your friendship
– you’ve found your soul mate.
One of these boy friends has just become newly single and all my friends were so excited, including the family and if you had asked me years ago if I had liked him, I would have said “yes, thank god he is now single, its my time!” LOL well not so brash as that. But I do not have any of those feelings, I don’t even want to kiss him. But the other friend, I just want to tell him ** breathes in this is a big moment **
 I did like you, I still do like you and I was just so scared and I am so sorry that I pushed you away, I think about it every day. 
 
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Maybe I can end up like having a relationship like these two. Maybe he is my lobster. Or maybe I am just wasting my time and I should move on.
Why is love or the thought of love so scary, but yet so addictive to want to have and to know and to need. It’s a crave that we all desire, it’s an addiction that we all want, but yet some of us are so scared of it, that in the end we may lose out on the best love.
It definitely made more sense to me, when I see posts of happiness on Facebook, when people are moving on with their lives etc. I know that if this boy does go that step further and possibly get married, I will feel like Rachel when Ross goes to marry Emily.
I know a bit much of a deeper post than usual, but that’s whats been going on in my life this week 🙂
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2 weeks of pure happiness – Friendship, Wireless, Brighton & more

IMG_20140630_231534 (1)Morning, afternoon and good evening – hello. God I have not done a blog post in 2 weeks, I am such a bad blogger (or am I, who made up the rules hey!?). Anyway, I have had a jammed packed 2 weeks in which I really have not had the time to relax after work to do this, as I have been pretty much cream crackered. So what have I been up to I hear you yell (I wish!), work nights out, catching up FINALLY with all my favourite girls (so freaked out right now, playing on my ipod is Girls just wanna have fun!, as I am writing about my girls) haha, Wireless Festival, Brighton days out and other activities.

Ps – the quote above is for anyone who is feeling absolute rubbish, my bff sent me it when she found out that my counsellor believes I am now suffering from low self esteem, depression and anxiety (life is brilliant!! 🙂  )

Let’s go on an adventure, if you don’t want to – check out my other blog posts.

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A different type of post – anxiety & counselling.

large (1)I am sure that if you are like me, you write a blog so you can express your feelings and those feelings that you cannot express with anyone else that you may know. Well this is definitely what  I do, I find it hard to express my own feelings but I am more than happy to help someone else out.

Yesterday I went to my first ever counselling session, I have been thinking about going for some time but this time it was suggested to me through work that I may need to go.

We all go through different emotions, feelings, stages in our lives. Each of us are unique in the way we walk, talk, express, draw, display ourselves and that’s what makes us ……. well……… us.

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