So I’ve been 30 for over 4 months now, nearly 5 and I’m slowly getting around to the idea that I’m 30. It’s still weird to see it written down, and when people ask how old I am, again it’s odd. I find it even stranger when I see people on TV that I personally think look older, and they end up being 33 or 34. I just think “fuck, is it all downhill from now?”.
When I was little, I had so many ideas of what being 30 would be. I thought I would have:
- A successful career
- 2 kids
- A nice house
Looking at that list above, I was thinking probably about my parents. At aged 30, they were getting there. But nowadays it seems that you either have your shit together or you’re struggling to get your shit together.
I am in the latter.
I’m not even joking, everyday since turning 30 I have thought to myself, why am I 30 and how did I get here? Like, I havent moved out yet, I haven’t met someone to be happy with yet, and my job… well. Meh.
But all of those, are to be confirmed arent they? I’m only 30, I’m a young 30 and that’s what I have to focus on.
So what, that all my best friends now have kids, so what that they are all happy with someone or loving the single mum life. They may look at my life and think (God knows why) wow I want her life, the independence.
I think being 30 so far as taught me more about myself. I know what I like, what I dont like and what I put up with. I love:
- Taking the old selfie
- Going places on my own
What i dont love is:
- People who talk about themselves
- Gym lovers
- Argumentative people
- Pushy people.
I’ve learnt to say no more. Ive learnt to say “I love you” to those who truly deserve it. Ive learnt that, although I may not think it at the time, I’m ok.
There are so many areas that I need to learn and to love about myself, but I’m getting there.
Currently I am going through a huge phase of absolutely not knowing what to do with my career. I feel absolutely out of my depth, and its getting to the point where I used to love to go into work, and now I dont want to. I havent felt like that in years. But I’ve taken career test after career test and I honestly dont know what I want out of life.
I’m hoping, that the next 7/8 months before I turn 31 that I learn what I want and what makes me happy.
But in the meantime, I’m trying to accept more, to have a more open mind. Life is too short, and I know this more than ever at the moment as my Nan has terminal cancer. She is just a beautiful kind lady, and its gonna hurt life fuck when she goes, so for now we all take it in turns to call her everyday to say “I love you”.
I therefore put it to you, to make sure you say “I love you” every day to someone special. Itll brighten their day.