One for all and all for one – Best Friends.

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In my life I have 6 close/best girl friends whatever you wish to call them, I have 1 that comes from Uni who lives nearly 2 hours away from me, another from school who lives 6 hours away from me and 3 others who live in the town the same as me. We all have different backgrounds and we are all very different. But whatever happens, I am there for them, I stick up for them and I trust them and of course if anyone hurts them, makes them upset or anything negative towards them I will back my girl up.

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Over the past few weeks, I have realised that my girl friends have been needing people and needing extra support than usual. I feel like sometimes I cannot be in all places but I am trying my up most best.

University BFF – My Uni friend and I have gone through so much together, I have been through things with her in a complete up and down situation. We got on like a house on fire within 1 week of living together and we lived together for 3 years after that. Throughout that time we had all the best times, the laughs, the memories, the photographs and the best nights out. But then on the other hand she went through some of the worst things, she tried to commit suicide on a number of occasions, whether it was through overdose or slitting her wrists. As well as this she was being mental abused by her boyfriend who I also lived with, she became bulimic and was put on anti depressants. Whilst we were in hospital, I had to go outside and of course cry and let it all out to my family. She refused to talk to her family and I had to break it to them, me and her family are very strong. Since she has left Uni the best thing happened, she met someone who made her life the best…. 2 weeks ago she had her second little girl and could not be happier with her and the little girls…..  apart from the boyfriend.

What would you do in my position, she tells me that her boyfriend is cheating on her, she wants to leave but is too scared to, he won’t visit family or friends. I have never met him and theyve been together 2 years now. If I were living down there I honestly would tell it straight to his face, as I did with the abuser.

I am fed up of men controlling women. Women should be strong, powerful, individuals – we lead our own lives, we do not lead the life of our other half!!! 

HOME BFFS – We hardly see each other there is always an excuse, I don’t know whether its just me because I am not from around this area – but we just don’t pop around each other’s houses. We have to always meet up as a 4 not just as a 2 or a 3. It’s very frustrating. 3 of us work full time, 1 is a nurse, myself and another girl – the other girl is part time and a mummy. It is very hard, but I see other friendship groups going out all the time, clubbing etc. I want to have that back, very frustrating. I am also single along with the mummy one and its very hard to meet someone. I love these girls to pieces I have known them all 7 years plus and when we do get together its the best time, we know all our insides out and we are always there for each other. The mummy has just had an operation in London for a lung op and she unfortunately made the statement that none of us went to see her, I did state that I was off for 3 weeks unable to walk due to my back injury but I still feel like shit for not going. Ah I dunno!!!

SCHOOL BFF – She has moved to Leeds, I live in Kent… bit of a distance. All we can do is Facebook message / text each other. We had the strongest bond at school but unfortunately we live so far apart its ridiculous. But as my photo says, we don’t talk or see each other every day – but we always have each other’s backs.

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Maybe it’s just me and I am feeling lonely at the moment. But I would suggest that we do need a bit more of this in our lives, as 90’s kids I think we should definitely stick to this rule: GIRL POWER!!

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What do you think?

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So excited!!

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Either today or tomorrow my best friend in the entire world will be having her second baby and it will be another girl, I just cannot wait at all. We have been through so much together, we first met at University in 2007 and have not looked back, we have never argued, we live over a 2 and a half hours away from each other but we talk every day and try and see each other as much as possible!

She has always wanted to be a mum and she is the best, she tries so hard. She is still with her boyfriend (who hmm I am not too keen on – but it’s probably because I am protective and he has never taken the time to get to know or meet me). Together we have gone through boys, dating, marriage splits, sickness and the downsides as well such as her mentally abusive boyfriend who I lived with as well in the Uni house and finally her many attempts of overdoses and suicides. I was always there.

I love her family to pieces and I just cannot wait for another little Princess in the world, if she is anything like the first daughter she will be the cutest (yes very one sided I know!!)

I don’t know what I would do without her.

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Her first daughter she first told me I remember January 2011 it was a few days after my Nan’s death and I was having the absolute worst time at work, I was so emotional and I actually went up to the break room and checked my phone – loads of missed calls saying “call me as soon as possible”. My first thought shit something has gone wrong and she said she was pregnant. I have never been in so many emotions in the space of 5 minutes, from going from crying with heartbreak to crying with happiness was wonderful. I didn’t tell anyone for ages and kept it like that until my brother thought something was up haha.

The second time, again I was having such a shitty time at work the parents were away and it was just me and my brother and I was on my break and again texts and texts this was July 2013 and she said “I havent even told my sister yet … but…….. im pregnant!!” I was just like OHMYGOD. How does she do this to me everytime. Yet again I was told to keep quiet again of course, but I must be awful because my brother worked out something again a few days later, but this time we kept the secret from parents haha!

I cannot wait, I am still unsure with many health conditions that I have if I would be able to ever have children, so I think it’s always a blessing, especially if it’s your best friend’s child.

Bring on the next 24-48 hours!!!!!

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