We all have hang ups, we all have body confident days and we are all judge every single day. No matter what you think we are all being judged and we judge others as well, as much as you try not too – you may judge to be positive or negative. Now my favourite song at the moment is Meghan Trainor’s All About That Bass, which celebrates being “curvy” and being body confident. I know as a “curvy/fuller figured” girl that I was highly pissed off on X Factor, when a thinner girl with killer abs was singing the lyrics. But only because I am proud to have a “bit of meat” on me. It did get me thinking, there are so many photos that say “curvy is what the man wants”, curves etc are all a man needs……… but seriously ladies – be you, be proud of who you are and don’t aim to change your body for a man, or a girl hehe.
I logged onto Facebook earlier and saw my best friend had posted this status and I was like You go girl. She is the opposite to me, has the most (in my eyes) the amazing figure. She said this:
“So apparently a ‘real woman’ supposedly according to much of society is a lady who is curvaceous and of a larger size? What about those who may be smaller than the national average clothes size of 12/14 does that make us not ‘real women?’ Not considered as feminine because we may be lacking in a few extra pounds? No we are all women whether you’re big, small, round or tall. I’m all for equality and acceptance no matter of your appearance and embracing our inner beauty and confidence because that’s what it’s all about, but we’re still not there yet. Since when is it ok for larger girls to make smaller girls feel inferior by referring to them in such a belittling context, because I guarantee you if a parade of skinny girls sauntered about declaring themselves as ‘real women’ and celebrating their smaller frame over other sizes there would be uproar! It’s wrong we are all women together and should never make one size seem more or less than another. And as for that song ‘all about that bass’ it is not ok to refer to people as ‘skinny bitches!’ It is no different to calling people ‘fat bitches’ both are so wrong. Celebrate all sizes without needing to single out or put down a certain appearance in the process and claiming its shameful to look that way. We are ALL beautiful majestic and mysterious creatures. Rock on bitches #spreadkindnessnotjudgement“
I just thought, wow that is so true. Who am I to think that because the media represent girls having the perfect figure with curves etc that is what the person that I desire wants. Who am I to judge another girl in having a “bigger body” or be jealous of a “thinner body”. Imagine if we were all the same, imagine if we all were bigger girls or smaller girls. That would be absolutely boring and dull. Everyone has tastes, whether it be you like a blonde person, brunette, auburn, red hair, white hair, black skin, asian, indian, black,covered in tattoos, piercings, short, tall etc….. in the end……………. we all shit, cry, are sick, blink and breathe together. Hahaha!!
I know full well that I judge girls and I absolutely shouldnt, I should feel comfortable in my own skin. But I believe that it is also jealousy, I am jealous that they have their figure, that hair, those boobs etc – but at the end of the day, there’s nothing wrong with me. I am not unwell, I can walk, talk, see, hear, breathe… I am now changing my perspective to – ‘as long as I am happy, who gives a shit as to what I look like, the people that care are going to stay and the people that don’t, they’re not worth your time’
I saw Zoella and Louise speak about this previously and to put it into perspective, I am Louise and my friend is Zoe. LOL and I could absolutely see what they were talking about. Have a look at this – click on the photo 🙂
Anyway after such a shit day, I found this photo and I thought I had to share it because it’s just so true. I have previously spoken about this topic before and you can read about this here and a girl power post.
Finally my friend had mentioned previously the “kind campaign”. Please have a look at their website, it’s all about girls being kind to each other especially at school, because its one of the toughest times for a girl, the hormones, the fake friends, the bullies and of course peer pressure. Here’s their website. It’s also a great website to gain information and background for help on feeling great and having that confidence.
Let’s stick together girls.