Girls can be vile.

largeI have touched on this subject before, but tonight some news has come about which has just made me really really annoyed. It probably won’t make anyone else annoyed, but because of the emotions involved it’ll mean more to me. ** if non of this makes sense, its because im pissed off, oh and theres quite a bit of swearing in this post**

Over the past few days, I have learnt more about girls than ever. I have previously spoke about how girls should unite together and we should!! We should stick together, because hey who’s gonna go up against those annoying boys 😉 But some girls can be just pure horrible. Girls can be the most argumentative, judgemental and bitchy characters out of the two sexes.

I am one and I will put my hands up, I have judged, I have bitched but I have never ever been malicious, controlling or vile.

There are two quick stories, I am going to tell. One is about my best friend and the other is about me.

The best friend

My girl has liked this boy for nearly 2 years now, this boy (who quite frankly is abit of a dick and an arsehole and I have said it to her face), he has made her feel so happy, made her cry and made her feel rather small. The lad and her met at work, there was a mutual friend who knew my girl, him and his ex. I am a rather good judge of character and I never trusted him ever. I was right to think that. Throughout these 2 years, the ex has stalked her, said horrible things about her on facebook. My girl and our mutual friend used to be really close, and she used to tell him what they had been getting up to, how amazing he was etc…. Low and behold, he went back to the ex and told her sister… who then passed that on. Unfortunately for this dickhead of a mutual friend, he stupidly sent the text saying “she thinks that im her friend, but im telling you everything”………. One, what an absolute tw*t, two – I know he isnt a girl, but what the ex and her sister did next was horrible.

My girl friend was out celebrating her degree *go her!* and 30 minutes after I left her, these two girls came up to her, cornered her in a well…. corner and started saying vile things to her, threatened her and chucked drinks over her. Luckily a friend (a boy) stood in the way and got her out of there.

Why are girls so horrible, the boy is single (unless he’s lying)! why can’t you just piss off.

why are girls so:

– horrible

– rude

– disgusting

– controlling

– unapologetic

My friend never set out to hurt anyone, she never set out to ruin any relationships (if there was one in place, she didnt know), she is a normal girl wanting to start a relationship.

My story

As I have said before, I like this guy. We used to be best friends until I fucked it up and I got so scared. Last November I met his girlfriend (who invited me to his surprise party – possibly keeping enemies closer thing)) she was horrible to me, very judgemental, she made me cry on a night out and made me feel very very small for being his friend. I can’t help it that he still had at that time feelings for me, I hid mine well as again, I am in no way shape or form wanting to ruin a relationship.

Since then, he has not responded to any texts, messages from me, our mutual friend and HIS FAMILY. I cannot stand what’s happening. I know she’s controlling him, I saw it back in November. I have had it so many times, with our mutual friend as we really are close and now him. To prove a point, all throughout our mutual friend’s relationship we hardly spoke, since theyve been split up in 2 months, we text nearly every other day and seen each other loads………… I just do not get it!!!!

But tonight, I plucked up the courage to speak to this guy’s sister, as we get on and I also saw she isn’t friends with this girlfriend on facebook. It appears he does not speak to any of his family, the girlfriend is over controlling and he basically needs to grow balls.

All I want to say to this boy, not the “I like you” part – as theyre still together, but just a simple “hi how are you?” – how hard is that?


 

Moral of the story, I am pissed off.

More moral of the story:

– if and when I get in a relationship, I will no way ever be like that and if I do, my friends have told me that they will say it straight.

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Two faced girls.

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I dont know whether it just in my life or its an age thing, but I have noticed more and more people are coming out of the woodwork as fake. I have a close set of friends who I know will all be there for each other. But I think over the past few months I have noticed it more and more.

It could be that I found out that a girl I used to get on really with at my old work, shockingly deleted me on facebook. I knew that she was very two faced at work, she would constantly bitch about someone at work and be nice as pie when they were infront of her. But it just kinda shocked me as every time I see her, she is sweet as pie to me and now its really making me think as to actually how two faced she was to me. I have definitely noticed it with a lot of my ex colleagues, they give the fakest smiles, I know they talk about me – I have never said a bad word about them since I have left.. maybe theyre jealous that I escaped that place. Here’s my negative comment haha – it’s full of people sleeping with each other at one point, they all gossip about each other, no support and there are so many families in there, you’re the outcast if you’re not a family member. That’s how it felt.

I do blame Facebook for this society of feeling like this, I technically shouldnt give two toots as to this action of “deletion”. But I would prefer if we had an argument lol and not just a cowardly way of “hey I dont want to be your friend anymore, im going to delete you”, Id prefer to have an actual reason.

I think it is an age thing, as I am becoming more and more comfortable in my own skin. I am not following others opinions, if someone does not like someone and they tell me to not like them, there’s no way in which I will do that. That person hasnt affected me in any way, so I will make up my own decisions. That’s how lies and chinese whispers go about.

This culture is becoming some sort of blame society, a fake and a lying society. If I like you, I like you – if I dont like you, i’ll just leave you to get on with your life and if believe in something I will fight for the cause.

I have posted previously about the positivity about girl power – check it out here — 

Frustrating 🙂

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Pressures to be “normal” weight….

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I bet we have all been there, I know I have and I can guarantee you have absolutely thought it – ” I am not as pretty/good looking/tall/small/thinner/bigger/curvier/beautiful than her/him “. We have all compared each other to someone else, whether that be because we are feeling or sometimes the total opposite where we want to feel good about ourselves (and you do that I bet you). But we shouldn’t, why should we compare each other, when in the end everyone wants to be unique. No one wants to be really the same and if you do you’re not particularly living YOUR life.

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I love nights out but last night…..

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So I said on Twitter last night that I would blog about tonight, well here we go:

You know you have those nights out with all your friends, you are used to their dancing moves, their drunkeness, how much they drink, what they say and how to deal with them. Well, I went on a night out with other girls and it was very strange!

It started off with a night in Frankie & Benny’s and it was nice meal etc, but the girls especially one who was the youngest of the night was just shocking. She not only was really rude to the waitress (who she also said she was a waitress in the past, so she should show compassion), very blunt, rude about the service, didn’t want to tip the waitress. The waitress by the way did nothing wrong, it was a Friday night in one of the busiest restaurants in town and course there will be a slight delay. But as I said to her and the girls, we are out all night – have patience and just enjoy the night. There was also another girl out with us and the others were ignoring her all night, they apparently only invited her because they felt sorry for her – that’s really not respect for the girl at all (in the taxi when it was just me and her, she said she felt that she was not wanted, I felt awful for her).

I am a person who will judge people personally, I will not judge someone because another person tells me to. I may like the person you hate and I may dislike the person you love. We are all individuals. 

So we left the dinner and decided to go clubbing – I suggested to go to this place which is £10 you get 5 free drinks and there will be a number of people there, but they decided to go to another place £6 for 3 free drinks – we got there and there was 2 people there………….. 2 people. It was 10pm, so we knew we were early. 30 minutes passed and we had all got rid of our drinks. I was getting more and more bored, I was trying to make myself happy and was enjoying the night with the girls. Who was I to judge how the night was going to be!

MORE PEOPLE ARRIVED YAY!!!! A group of gay men lets say and their girl (friends), the one girl that was annoying me all night just turned around to us all and I was so shocked:

“oh god I hope that’s not my brother, he’s gay and I just don’t want to see or even talk to him brings so much shame”

I have never heard anything of the sort,   I have had this conversation with her in the past and she said she does not mind gays in society but not in her family! Maybe it is just me but if my brother turned around to me and said “I am gay”, my reaction would be “great, if you find someone I really dont mind – if they make you happy that is all I care about, gender or age”. So I tried to put that behind me, but the night just went downhill from then, we were dancing the night away and I was on the water – I had told the barman if they could put ice in it to make it look like im having alcohol, as the girls kept pressuring me to have a drink. Now I love a drink, but when you feel uncomfortable it’s just not that great. I was thinking back to all the nights out with my close friends and friends in the past and even uni and it just did not compare to even the worst of those nights. There was still 20 people in the club, it was slowly declining, finally at 1am I was like I have had enough without making it look like I was annoyed and went home.

It was only in the taxi afterwards where I thought to myself, those girls were so judgemental. They were judging other girls clothes, skin, hair, dancing, race, size and sexuality – all I thought was thank god I am not you and I am me.  Girls should stick together!

Apparently they had the best night out in ages according to Facebook, I just went home got my pjs on and watched “hotel inspector” hahaha. Not doing that again in ages.

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Jealousy is a horrible trait girls.

I am sure that boys/men lol the opposite sex lets say do not often get jealous, I am sure they do but not as much as girls/women. Okay for the blog purpose it’ll be girls and boys can’t be dealing with all the faff of the lovely “/” symbol.

Jealousy is a horrible trait, it can make you feel shit about yourself, it can make you want to change yourself when you should accept yourself and it can also make you lose friends, gain fake friends and also make enemies.

There are different types of jealousy good and bad of course:

The Work – I am jealous of their promotion, I am jealous of the way they work, I am jealous of the money that they receive and I am jealous of their lifestyle that comes with their job. OF course some of these can also play a big part in pushing yourself forward to gain that promotion, to learn new skills etc – but if it starts to take over your life and changes the way your out of work lifestyle will be, take a sit back, relax and think what do you deserve more and what makes you happy.

The Relationship – Whether it will be the ex partner and you’re jealous of the new partner of them, or whether you are jealous of other relationships because you are the single one, or you’re in an unhappy relationship – this will always bring issues. I personally cannot stand girls in relationships who are jealous of their partners “girl” friends, they are the worst type, when they are insecure little girls. Use the positives to any advantages though, if you’re not happy in a relationship then see why you are unhappy and chose what to do about that.

The Friendship – This can be if someone is more popular than you, they could be getting more attention or again their lifestyle (you cannot keep up with their spending money, days out etc). I have been in the position of the jealous friend, we were a threesome of friends and this one particular girl just turned on me because me and the other girl were getting closer but that’s only because of circumstances. It made for awful days at school (but then again school can be the worst place for friendships – friendships aren’t often carried through life from school). If you do become in these situations truly think who your true friends are.

Life & comparisons – I am bigger than that girl, I am smaller than that girl, I have awful fashion sense compared, she is prettier than me, I have less money etc etc. You will get to the stage of jealousy in which you feel uncomfortable about yourself and you will feel weaker and there is no need to do that. You are you, you are beautiful and you are precious, individual and were put on this earth to not be a copy cat.