Welcome to my life.
So I have been single for nearly 6 years now, bugger.
I have been on dates and I talk to boys/men whatever you want to classify them as, but as soon as it starts to get into “do you want to go on a date phase” or they say that they are interested I basically really back off.
What’s wrong!! I want to be in a relationship, but I just have this absolute fear of doing going further. It’s really getting to me now and I do not want to be someone who ends up on their own.
I have started online dating – what am I doing:
So far I feel like I am absolutely stupid doing this, I have no idea what I am doing and it seems such an easy task. There are quite a few weirdos I have already come across and I am still unsure as to whether this is the best move for me…. again.
Let me tell you I have dated people on and off the internet before, my first two relationships were from the online area and they ended really badly. Those two relationships went on before meeting for a number of moths and then when we met it lasted only a few days. I was young and definitely naive but it has definitely made me more aware of what could go wrong. I have not only joined the most amazing dating website in the world (!) but it will do for now, as currently I am unsure and I do not want to be paying to speak to someone online who I do not know.
Plenty of Fish what a website –
The idea that anyone can talk to you is a bonus, although you can always put restrictions on who you wish to speak to, ie – age, whether they are married or whether they would like sexual encounters – no thanks! You of course can chose in any of these categories, it does sound horrible already picking off people before even talking to them but of course people can ignore you too, it definitely works in both ways. It’s very strange when the first few conversations come in, you feel all special and wanted until you see the types of messages (and you can easily spot those who just copy and paste!) But it’s nice to get to know someone. I have only been on there just over a week now and I am still very wary of course. My best friend met her now partner 3 years ago and they are currently expecting their second child together and she is happy. There are always success stories.
Oh there is definitely cons to go with these types of websites, I think in my frame of mind at the moment is that there are more cons than pros. One of the biggest cons for me is that how do you know if the person is real or fake. I have had it in the past where I have been speaking to someone for months and in the end they turned around and said that they were absolutely lying about who they were. I felt absolutely horrid inside.
Another con is – Am I ready for this? – it takes me ages to open up to someone even in a bar, they want me to have their number and I may or may not giggle in their face or walk away. So the idea of taking their number for the next step then meeting them freaks me out, so imagine meeting someone I have never even see face to face!! But the guilt afterwards of seeing that I have let them down is bloody awful. The last con of this website is in particular that although you can see who is checking you out and yes I have had some people I know on there checking me out, I am not keen on those people who see that I am checking them out. Yes I am not really fair am I haha! It (the website) has such a bad reputation and if someone came up to me and said “oh I saw you on POF” I would immediately take myself off through embarrassment.
Is it just me?